Forgiving someone, who hurts you deeply, is the hardest challenge of life. But, you can only move forward in life when you can make it possible. Forgiveness is a measure to unload the extra baggage of our mind. Hate, jealousy, distrust and desire to take revenge make our mind heavy stressful. The heavy mind cannot enjoy the natural happiness of our spirit. If we can release those emotions, our mind will be free to enjoy the beauty of the animation. Forgiveness is the best measure to do that. It opens the closed doors of mind to accept the life as it comes to our way.
You must think, it’s easy to say and tough to do. But, that’s not like that. There are some ways to do that. Practicing those makes it easy. But, first and foremost thing for that is your willingness to do that. You can only forgive someone when you want to forgive him or her. Otherwise, you have to be burnt for the rest of the life with the fire of the hate and the desire for revenge.
Forgiving is time taking matters. You cannot forgive someone, who hurts you badly, immediately after the incident. The mind is ready to forgive someone when your tears dried up.
After experiencing the tremendous pain of the incident and fighting with that pain and incident, when you realize there is no way to relieve other than forgiving, you can only forgive someone at that fourth dimension. Now, the ways of forgiving are like as follows.
6 keys to forgive the misdeeds:
Diverting the mind:
At first, you have to divert your mind from that incident or the misdeed. Life is much broader than a particular incident. Your life won’t be spoiled by an incident if you don’t want to do that. So, concentrate on your routine activities, like your work in office and home, your educations, party, club whatsoever activities you did before that incident. “The show must go on”.
Every emotion is the energy. Hate, jealousy, desire for revenge, etc., generate a huge amount of energy, just like the fire. If you use the fire for cooking something rather than burning yourself, you must be benefitted by that. Simply, transfer the energy in loving something or someone. I’m not saying to love the person, whom you hate most. But, you can love the things or the persons, whom you like. Just increase the amount of love and love as much as you can. Love your hobby, love your work, and love the people, who are with you even at your toughest times. The extra puss of love will be supplied from the vitality of those unwanted emotions. These tremendous flows of love sometimes discover your passion, if you don’t have that yet. Passion is a type of shelter, which always makes you comfort when the life becomes uncomfortable.
When you transform the huge energy of those uncomfortable emotions into serene love, you automatically feel light. Now, you are loving yourself. Hate, pain, desire for revenge all the garbage, which are thrown by the society to you, are transcended by love. Now, your mind becomes open to receive the eternal call, “move forward”.
You can only move forward properly when you will take morals from the incident that hurts you in the worst. Try to learn from that experience. Did you trust someone blindly? Did you depend on someone mostly? Are you the victim of hypocrisy? Or were you simply the victim of someone’s mistakes? Ask yourself the questions like that. You must be found the correct answer. The style of teaching of life is quite different from our normal school, where we are taught before the test. But, in the school of life, we are taught only after performing the test.
When you will take morals from your experience, you must feel that the lessons are much bigger than the incident or the misdeeds. This draws the incident less valuable thing in life. It helps you to look forward. People call it often, “forget about it”.
You cannot accept those matters, which stops you from moving on. When you can step forward by passing over the stoppers, you will never experience any trouble to accept the incident as a component of life. After all, it teaches you the great lessons that enrich your wisdom. So, it should have a special space in your life. Accepting the incident or someone’s misdeeds with a great life lesson is forgiving. Then, you can feel that you really unloaded the extra baggage of your mind.
“The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of strong.”- Mahatma Gandhi.
Forgiving someone doesn’t intend to stoop downwards. It is a much higher thing than anything we can get along in our lifetimes. Hence, when you forgive someone, it makes you great. But, forgiving the injustice without fighting back is your weakness. Thus, you have to decide when to fight back and when to forgive. Forgiving is a divine affair. It is not easy to come by. But, it is a sign of one’s inner strength.So, don’t be a miser to spread your greatness when it’s needed.
This post is submitted for Indispire Prompt.
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