6 keys to forgive the misdeeds

6 keys to forgive the misdeeds

Forgiveness:

Forgiving someone, who hurts you deeply, is the hardest challenge of life. But, you can only move forward in life when you can make it possible. Forgiveness is a measure to unload the extra baggage of our mind.  Hate, jealousy, distrust and desire to take revenge make our mind heavy stressful.  The heavy mind cannot enjoy the natural happiness of our spirit. If we can release those emotions, our mind will be free to enjoy the beauty of the animation. Forgiveness is the best measure to do that. It opens the closed doors of mind to accept the life as it comes to our way.

You must think, it’s easy to say and tough to do. But, that’s not like that. There are some ways to do that. Practicing those makes it easy. But, first and foremost thing for that is your willingness to do that. You can only forgive someone when you want to forgive him or her. Otherwise, you have to be burnt for the rest of the life with the fire of the hate and the desire for revenge.

Forgiving is time taking matters. You cannot forgive someone, who hurts you badly, immediately after the incident. The mind is ready to forgive someone when your tears dried up.

After experiencing the tremendous pain of the incident and fighting with that pain and incident, when you realize there is no way to relieve other than forgiving, you can only forgive someone at that fourth dimension. Now, the ways of forgiving are like as follows.

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Forgiveness sets you free

6 keys to forgive the misdeeds:

  1. Diverting the mind:

    At first, you have to divert your mind from that incident or the misdeed. Life is much broader than a particular incident. Your life won’t be spoiled by an incident if you don’t want to do that. So, concentrate on your routine activities, like your work in office and home, your educations, party, club whatsoever activities you did before that incident.  “The show must go on”.

  2. Loving:

    Every emotion is the energy. Hate, jealousy, desire for revenge, etc., generate a huge amount of energy, just like the fire.  If you use the fire for cooking something rather than burning yourself, you must be benefitted by that.  Simply, transfer the energy in loving something or someone. I’m not saying to love the person, whom you hate most. But, you can love the things or the persons, whom you like. Just increase the amount of love and love as much as you can. Love your hobby, love your work, and love the people, who are with you even at your toughest times. The extra puss of love will be supplied from the vitality of those unwanted emotions. These tremendous flows of love sometimes discover your passion, if you don’t have that yet. Passion is a type of shelter, which always makes you comfort when the life becomes uncomfortable.

  3. Feeling Light:

    When you transform the huge energy of those uncomfortable emotions into serene love, you automatically feel light. Now, you are loving yourself. Hate, pain, desire for revenge all the garbage, which are thrown by the society to you, are transcended by love. Now, your mind becomes open to receive the eternal call, “move forward”.

  4. Learning Lessons:

    You can only move forward properly when you will take morals from the incident that hurts you in the worst. Try to learn from that experience. Did you trust someone blindly? Did you depend on someone mostly? Are you the victim of hypocrisy? Or were you simply the victim of someone’s mistakes?  Ask yourself the questions like that. You must be found the correct answer. The style of teaching of life is quite different from our normal school, where we are taught before the test. But, in the school of life, we are taught only after performing the test.

  5. Moving forward:

    When you will take morals from your experience, you must feel that the lessons are much bigger than the incident or the misdeeds. This draws the incident less valuable thing in life. It helps you to look forward. People call it often, “forget about it”.

  6. Accepting:

    You cannot accept those matters, which stops you from moving on. When you can step forward by passing over the stoppers, you will never experience any trouble to  accept the incident as a component of life. After all, it teaches you the great lessons that enrich your wisdom.  So, it should have a special space in your life. Accepting the incident or someone’s misdeeds with a great life lesson is forgiving. Then, you can feel that you really unloaded the extra baggage of your mind.

Conclusion:

The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of strong.”- Mahatma Gandhi.

Forgiving someone doesn’t intend to stoop downwards.  It is a much higher thing than anything we can get along in our lifetimes. Hence, when you forgive someone, it makes you great. But, forgiving the injustice without fighting back is your weakness. Thus, you have to decide when to fight back and when to forgive. Forgiving is a divine affair. It is not easy to come by. But, it is a sign of one’s inner strength.So, don’t be a miser to spread your greatness when it’s needed.

This post is submitted for Indispire Prompt.

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Gama
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Thanks for sharing good post, I will try this👍😁👌

Sayanti aka Shine
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My pleasure. Thanks for sharing feeling.

Gama
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😊👍

Bhanu
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Yes I always believe that quote by MG and however hard it feels I always suggest to forgive. I call it the killing of bitterness in your self and others. If you let go of the bitterness of the moments that are causing you to feel bad, you can forgive easily. The key is let go off the bitterness. Because you cannot expect someone else to die, by eating poison yourself. I did write about Bitterness

I am glad your serenity reaches the world.

Sayanti aka Shine
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Very well said and thank you so much for sharing your views.

Claudia Sava
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Forgive,but not forget.I believe it with all of my being.The healing power of forgiveness mends our hearts and souls and I believe it takes us to a higher spiritual state,where you become aware that to forgive is way better than to revenge,that releasing your negative emotions is way more powerful than keeping them all bottled up inside,destroying you bit by bit.
So beautiful!

Sayanti aka Shine
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Well said Claudia. I also believe in the same concept. Forgiving but not forget the lessons you have learned. Forgetting is same as escaping. Thank you so much for sharing your beautiful views and enriching my post.

Sparkyjen
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Forgiveness is the only way to move forward. I can’t imagine being stuck. I may remember what I have experienced, but I have long since abandoned the emotion that went with it. Pain isn’t fun. I don’t believe we were put here to suffer. We definitely shouldn’t be suffering by our own minds. Clear it. Forgive it. Give yourself permission to let it go. That’s the key! If I could underline “permission” here, I would.

Sayanti aka Shine
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Yes, you are absolutely right. I also believe in that. We cannot control the pain that comes from other. But, suffering is our own hand. We should find out the ways to get out from suffering by clearing the garbage of our minds.

Sayanti aka Shine
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Thank you so much for sharing your wonderful thoughts here. It also helps me to cultivate the topic more.

kingsoracle
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Beautiful Insights and profound thoughts well articulated. Thanks for sharing. I saw your link on Jackie’s post. Nice to meet you. 😀

Sayanti aka Shine
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Thank you so much for your kind words. Sharing is my pleasure. Thanks again for stopping by.

kingsoracle
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You are most welcome, my shine lady 😉

Amitav Chowdhury
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Awesome post.

Sayanti aka Shine
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Thanks.

Amitav Chowdhury
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I would like to Reblog this article tomorrow. Taking your permission beforehand. Please let me know.

Sayanti aka Shine
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You are so kind and I will be honored if you do that.

Amitav Chowdhury
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Sure, tomorrow I will Reblog this article. Done.

Subhash
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Very nice article and well articulated

Sayanti aka Shine
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Thanks Subhash.

Amitav Chowdhury
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Reblogged this on Amitav Chowdhury and commented:
A wonderful post.

Sayanti aka Shine
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Thank you so much.

Amitav Chowdhury
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Welcome.

Nicky M
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What great food for thought – mentioned you in a post today by the way, https://theshimmerwithinher.com/2016/07/07/the-3-day-quote-challenge-2/ Have a lovely day x

Sayanti aka Shine
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Thanks Nicky.

extinct0703
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Wonderful post, thought provoking, bit tough to follow but surely very beneficial. Thanks for sharing Sayanti.

Sayanti aka Shine
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It’s my pleasure and thank you again for your encouragement.

extinct0703
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🙂

Nitin
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Hi Sayanti. How are you doing? Found your post on Indiblog. As always liked the articulation of your thoughts. 🙂

Sayanti aka Shine
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Hi Nitin, after a long days. m fine. What’s about you? Thanks for reading this.

Roberta Pimentel
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For an amazing post! Thank you for sharing this! Forgiveness is necessary to move forward in life ..

Sayanti aka Shine
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Thank you. Yes, it is freedom. Hence, we can move forward.

Roberta Pimentel
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You are welcome! 🙂

johncoyote
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Reblogged this on johncoyote and commented:
Outstanding wisdom shared. Please read and share.

Sayanti aka Shine
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Thanks a lot. I’m honored.

johncoyote
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Is my honor and you are welcome.

johncoyote
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Amazing words and thoughts. Thank you.

Sayanti aka Shine
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Thank you for stopping and sharing your view,

johncoyote
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You are welcome Sayanti.

Roberta Pimentel
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Reblogged this on Roberta Pimentel.

Sayanti aka Shine
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Thanks Roberta.

Roberta Pimentel
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My pleasure 🙂

intrudesite
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It is a simple yet practical approach. Perhaps it is important “Not to forgive the one who is not sorry for hurting you ” . Because when we do that then we are letting them do that to another victim. That is perpetuating a hurt , letting another cycle of hurt to go on…..Gandhiji did resist violence , non violently . But he did not forgive those who denied freedom and human dignity , he fought valiantly and died resisting violence.

Sayanti aka Shine
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I can understand what you’ve meant here…. we shouldn’t forgive those, who do unjust with us. The act of Gandhi said so. I agree with you. In that case we should protest against the injustice.
Thank you for stopping by and sharing your thoughts.

kbeezyisviral
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Forgiveness is the sweetest fruit we can taste, experience, and feel. It puts life in a glowing perspective, and shows us what’s cherished and real. Beautiful post.

Sayanti aka Shine
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Very well said, forgiveness is a sweetest fruit. Thanks for adding such nice words with this post and stopping by also.

kbeezyisviral
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You’re very welcome. I look forward to reading more of your content. Have a magnificent Monday.

laurelwolfelives
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I disagree that “the weak can never forgive.” The weak forgive and then get screwed over and over and over. The strong say….”never again.”
Do I forgive? No. Will I ever forgive? No. Does that make me weak? No. Saying that somebody who doesn’t forgive makes them weak…is unfair.

Sayanti aka Shine
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Thank you for stopping by and sharing your thoughts. Very nicely you explained the fact why you disagree with this quote. But, here, the week are those who have a strong sense of Ego, who think forgiving someone means bow down to him or her. This is the weakness. Weak is one whose Ego is strong. Thus, it is said ” weak can never forgive”.

laurelwolfelives
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I have heard that. But as a life-long victim of emotional, physical and mental abuse…somebody who forgave repeatedly to only have the same abuse happen over and over and over….I stopped. I have next to no EGO. How could I possibly?
My strength is never allowing anybody to abuse me again…EVER. That’s protection….not ego.

Sayanti aka Shine
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Thanks for explaining your situation. It helps me to understand the matter though it is very painful. Here is no question of Ego. It’s unjust. Forgiving it means encouraging it. One should protest against this injustice. Forgiving is a measure to unload the extra baggage of mind. But, that doesn’t mean to forgive the unjust. We should decide where to forgive and where to protest.

laurelwolfelives
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I am capable of forgiveness but the one thing I never forgive is betrayal. There is nothing worse….especially when it comes from the person or persons you trusted the most. Sigh.

Patchious patch
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Nice post I stumbled open it by accident but glad to read your post, as i am myself battling the same situation of “forgiveness”…Its not easy but that does not mean its not possible , though today I am far from the bitterness and hurt , I still have a lot to go , yout post have given me new directions to tackle the situations – Thanks for sharing 🙂

Sayanti aka Shine
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It’s my pleasure. Glad to know that you’ve found a new direction from it. This is the highest satisfaction of writing this type of post. Thanks for stopping by and sharing your thoughts.

kiranmag
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Beautiful explaination of the art of forgiving…

Forgiving the other person is a wonderful way to honor yourself. It affirms to the universe that you deserve to be happy.

Sayanti aka Shine
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Yes, it is tough but at the end it makes us happy. Thanks for sharing your views.

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