Superficially, a narcissist and the one who has self-love look almost the same. But, the basic difference between them is that a narcissist does whatever that gratifies his or her ego whereas a one who has self-love does things for their inner piece. People with self-love, know themselves and aware of their limitations or imperfections. Their love based on all over acceptance where they accept themselves with all their imperfections.Thus, they don’t try to hide their flaws by creating a false wall that is called ego. They are free to flow themselves as they are and ready to accept others as they are.
The narcissist one always needs an ego to wrap the things within him or her that he or she never wants to face. They fear to face themselves as they cannot take the imperfections within them. Thus, they need the praises and admirations from outside that satisfy their ego. Their ego is something that they exhibit outside to get those false admirations. It helps them to escape from their own flaws. Even, they so dare to run away from those flaws that they blame others for their wrong doings. They embellish their strengths with some positive appearance (pretending something that they are no actually) to get false importance from others.
These all helps them to nourish their ego, but not to bring the inner contentment. They are basically empty and alone from inside. They exist because of the people, who nourish their ego by saying the words they like. In this way, they build a fantasy world around themselves and scare to get out from that zone. If the illusory world breaks, they just lose their existence as it is all about their ego.
When the ego dissolves the thing left is the love for Self. Now, this love is pure and it is self-love that knows to live with all good and bad. The narcissist one can be the scan be the one who has elf-love when their ego dissolves and find their true Self.
The most difficult thing in this world is the acceptance. It is the ability to learn what is not for you. You fight for the whole life to accept the reality and to accept yourself as you are. That’s why the struggle in life exists. The moment you accept yourself with all your imperfections and limitations, the struggle in life will disappear.
Everyone is unique and everyone’s life is unique. But, you are trained from the beginning that you should be like that, you should do that or you should move like that way and so on. The whole society, around you, has been focusing on your imperfections and trying to rectify that by comparing you with others. This is the reason why the self-love is missing. This leads to thinking that you are not a unique, you should be somebody to do something. If you cannot accept yourself, you won’t be able to accept your life with all your success and failure. You will always miss the happiness in every event of lives. That will create anxiety and stress in life. No one can give you the happiness you need for. Happiness is the acceptance. It can only achieve when you can live the life as it comes to your way.
Acceptance is the foundation where the love grows. When you start to accept ourselves, you will fall in love with yourself. It will change your living. You will feel everything is good and everything has happened to your betterment. This insight will help you to win your fear. Fear of future or fear of death. The agony of the past will be your insights of present and show you the light to move forward in life. There is no complaint, no repentance left in your life. You will feel grateful for everything. Joy and pain are the parts of life. They come to life, like the day and night. You cannot control that; you can only accept that and learn from that.
Find out the strength on you. Note down your limitations. No need to change that. You are perfect with all your imperfections. Just love yourself as you are because you are a unique. Then, you can accept yourself and your life. When you do that you can accept others as they are. It makes the life easy and stress-free.
This post is the part of Blogging From A to Z challenge April 2017 for letter A on the theme Exploring The Beauty Of Living. #atozchallenge