You are not what people perceive you.You are what you perceive yourself
The beauty of a photograph depends on how the photographer watches the object through his/her lens. In the same way, you can only discover the beauty of yourself by your own perception. The reason behind, you know yourself better than people around you. People can only see your external appearance, not your internal qualities and limitations. Their judgement depends on how you express yourself to them. Can we express ourselves completely? No, our expressions depend on the situations, conditions of mind and the people around us. So, our one action or reaction is not enough to judge us impartially.
Suppose, an action of yours is well supported by your friends, but your family criticizes you for that deed. In that case, how do you conclude yourself? The thoughts behind the support and the criticism are totally different. You cannot control their thoughts and perceptions as their mindsets are different. You can only fix yours. You are one, who knows in which platform and in which condition, you perform that action. So, you are only the right judge of yourself. People have no right to judge you according to their perceptions. There is no true mark of right doing or wrongdoing in our life. It depends on our beliefs only.
So, see yourself through your lens, just like a good photographer. The only condition is you have to be impartial like a good judge. Don’t allow other peoples’ limited perceptions to define you. Either it makes you proud or it leads depression in your mind. Both are harmful to us. Just, keep in mind you are not what people perceive you. You are what you perceive yourself. Give value to yourself first and know yourself. If you are valuable to yourself, other’s perceptions cannot make any difference.